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happiness first

Yesterday I had the opportunity to speak at Stagecoach in Stockport.

The topic was “How to manage stress without punching someone”. Because you know sometimes, that’s all we want to do!

What you need to understand is that we will always have stress in our lives, it could literally save us at some point.

…You know, if a white sabre-toothed tiger jumped out of the bushes to attack us. Anyway, I digress.

We spoke about:

  • Where stress comes from
  • What chemical changes happen in our body
  • How our behaviour changes
  • 5 steps to managing and releasing the stress (without punching someone)

There was 1 really key takehome for me, and that was, ultimately, we all want happiness.

Who doesn’t want to be happy?

Yes you may say that you want ‘toned arms’ or a ‘flat stomach’, but really what you are saying is this:


“I don’t feel 100% confdient or comfortable with my appearence, so I want to work on that which will make me feel happier”


But how do we break out of this vicious cycle of feeling unhappy, having poor sleep, feeling tired and a lack of motivation?

Well, you need to have two things to get you started:

1. You need to find the thing that makes you happy!


Sorry, this doesn’t just mean wine and cake (well not all the time anyway).

I mean you need to find the exercise, sport, activity or gym which makes you happy.

I had the most amazing chat with one of the girls after and she completely reiterated this to me. She spoke about how you need to look forward to it, and for it to make you feel good.

For most people going to a commercial gym is absolutely terrifying. Mirrors, big machines, lots of people, nobody to ask questions, and lots of grunting men.

But don’t just admit defeat, there are plenty of other options out there. Like Benchmark, and having the option to trial us for 30 days before any commitment.

When you are happy, content . and comfortable with the thing you’re doing you will keep going more often and not see it as a chore.



2. You need a goal!

We did a whole podcast on how to set a goal, check it out below:

Another topic I discussed was creating a goal, and then mini-goals along the way to achieve this.

The goal does not need to be huge! It can be as simple as ‘In 2 months time I want to be in a consistent routine of exercising’.

Once you have achieved this goal you can then build from there.  You could even do a daily small goal like hitting 10,000 steps per day.

The happiness you feel when you have achieved something is so great! Its something you can’t put into words.

Every session at Benchmark you will achieve so much:

  1. Just turning up
  2. Improving on last weeks sessions (Lifting heavier weight, better form etc)
  3. Completing points using MyZone

Then if you come to the gym 2-3 times per week, you’re achieving so much! It really is such a positive step forward!

So what next?

Most importantly, find the sport, hobby or gym you actually enjoy!

You can contact us here if you have any questions!